Ephesians 4:29 NIV

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Today's dare is to speak life.... to everyone in my life.  Then I need to record what happened later.  Oy!

I didnt do very well.  At least not with sarcsm and my annoyance with Kim.  I also didnt do well with craig.  He brought flowers.... but I am hurt by his desire to leave.     I dont know what to do.  Other than to share, just one time how I feel.  Its odd... I hurt overhim moving to peteluma...but at the same time I crave his love and approval.....   but I am cold.   Lord, please help me!

A real dare

Ephesians 4:29 NIV

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.

Today's dare is to speak life.... to everyone in my life.  Then I need to record what happened later.  Oy!

Glitter

Everything that glitters isn't gold.  We should stick to what God has called us to do. 

Where your treasure is

Hebrews 13:4-5 NIV

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”

I never realized that the first part of this section is about husband and wives.

1. I don't generally find myself envious.  I would like a pretty house (or maybe just a functional house) where I can invite people over.  I love the property but not having real running water...Real septic and a decent kitchen can be frustrating.  Craig talks about how he always took care of the fresno house...but he doesn't do anything here.  I don't fully trust him to finish projects.  I do believe that when I share my frustration he feels I am not being respectful but when I ask how I can do that respectfully he won't answer.   Father forgive me for being disrespectful in how I share.  Help us...show us...lead us by your spirit to communicate.

2. I don't put pressure on him. He puts enough on himself.  He is currently trying to get a job in peteluma. 

3.  I agree.  Lord use us and this property to your glory

4 I do trust God. Sometimes I get impatient, but mainly it's a communication issue with craig and I. 

5. The property really isn't ours.  It is Gods! God can use it and our time here to bless Tony and Lisa...Instead of just taking advantage of us.

Lord, although I am not perfect or even close, I am more content with money.  How do I help my husband?   (YOU dont...be still, love him and let God work on his heart) 

Be still

Exodus 14:14 NIV

The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.”

This means in my marraige too! 

Joy

John 16:20-33 NIV

Very truly I tell you, you will weep and mourn while the world rejoices. You will grieve, but your grief will turn to joy.  A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world.  So with you: Now is your time of grief, but I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy.  In that day you will no longer ask me anything. Very truly I tell you, my Father will give you whatever you ask in my name.  Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive, and your joy will be complete.     “Though I have been speaking figuratively, a time is coming when I will no longer use this kind of language but will tell you plainly about my Father.  In that day you will ask in my name. I am not saying that I will ask the Father on your behalf.  No, the Father himself loves you because you have loved me and have believed that I came from God.  I came from the Father and entered the world; now I am leaving the world and going back to the Father.”    Then Jesus’ disciples said, “Now you are speaking clearly and without figures of speech. Now we can see that you know all things and that you do not even need to have anyone ask you questions. This makes us believe that you came from God.”    “Do you now believe?” Jesus replied. “A time is coming and in fact has come when you will be scattered, each to your own home. You will leave me all alone. Yet I am not alone, for my Father is with me.     “I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”

Treat him like a man

Proverbs 31:12 NIV

She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.

Have I treated Craig like a child?  Definitely.   Lord jesus,  I don't want to treat him with disrespect.   Please show me what I need to change.  Sharon never treated John inferior.....I don't recall her treating my dad like that either.  Kathie is respectful as well.  My mom wasnt. 

8 things to make my husband feel like a man....

Sincerely thank him... for providing....getting water..... (can do  that this morning)

Initiate love making....

Let him open the door

Don't scold him

Be kind

Don't put him on facebook...He feels it's all disrespectful.

Talk to him

Don't expect anything in return... father, how can I keep going without appreciation?  I haven't been feeling loved.... let alone appreciated.  

When you experience resentment or disappointment due to your husband's reaction or lack of reaction consider those feelings cues of expectations for you.  Choose in those moments to change your attitude, loving without expectation as God did through Jesus.