Am I submissive?
I think so. Craig does not. I am independent and assertive. In reading "Have a new.husband by Friday", Dr. LEHMAN said that you should tell your husband what you need and when you need it by. Let him respond. Dont nag. If he doesnt do it, cheerfully get it done. (Do it yourself or hire it out) so, does being submissive mean I should have waited for the kitchen to be remodeled? We both knew it needed to be done. Wed even bought a lot of the stuff together. Ive been waiting 2 years. Even he likes it..... but he is upset with me. Is he upset because I did it? He did say more than once that he would like me to wait. But for how long?
2. I don't know if I trust craig to do what he says hell do. He doesnt have follow through in so many areas. it isnt that I dont trust him to do a good job, because he does a.fantastic job when he does something. But, like the kitchen, if I waited for him, it would never be remodeled. He rarely cleans or cooks and I think the ickiness of what it looked like is part of it. He also has so many projects at once that he doesnt get to everything. I dont think not getting to things that are important to me is done in spite, I truly believe its the ADD.
There are a lot if worst case scenarios.
I think that I need to show respect and submission by the way I speak to and about my husband. So no gloating about the kitchen. No making fun of him. I need to tell him my needs and then let them go or take care of them myself. Woman in the bible did. Nables wife...queen esther.sarah rebecca.... they all influenced their husband and took care of business when needed.
Lord jesus I know that this is where I struggle. I do desire to be a good wife. I am not sure I am capable of being a good wife though. Please speak to me and show me where I can give the reins to Craig. Fixing the kitchen is not something his mom would have done. Helo him understand and helo me also Lord.
Lord, I desire to trust craig to lead me. Where shall I even begin?