Thursday, April 24, 2014

What does he like?

Proverbs 21:9 NIV

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.

What does Craig ask me to do that I dont feel is always priductive?  Giing to Friant with him is one.  So although I feel like my time would be better spent elsewhere,  next time he asks,  I will go.   

Lord please give me peace about this.  ��

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

Change

So much has changed in me aince I was a teen.i love Jesus for one.   I was miserable, a thief,  a drunkard,  dishonest.  Ray told me that accepting Jesus was a fad.  I would outgrow it.  Thank you Jesus that your spirit remains in me

I believe in my heart my husband is a good man who loves Jesus also.   I see him more clearly or through trained lenses than when we first married.   Sometimes I think he forgets Gods power to change others and is cynical.

In my position (even if my position was a stay at home mom) I need to take more time recofnizing change in others.  Not just craig but in my kids and co workers. 

I should encourage others.   I dont always take the time.because we shouldnallnstrive to do our best but.... everyine needs encouragement. 

Changes ive seen in craig .....he gave up the idea of having a job in petaluma!  Thank you Lord!  He is kinder to me again. 

Lord, please show me things you see in people. ...ways to encourage others.     Thank you for your spirit which encourages me

Prayer

Galatians 6:2 NIV

Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

There have been a few times I've had troubles.   The biggest one was when I was fired from VLCS. 

I went to Craig.  did we pray together?  I dont recall.

We have had serious struggles.  I feel we are in one now. 

Top 3
Me losing my job
Craig getting valley fever
Craigs dad dying

I think we grew closer together ....except for when sam died.  He seemed to push me away a bit.

I think we cling to God separately

I want more of God together.    Im not sure where Craigs faith is.  

Thursday, April 17, 2014

Submission.

I asked craig what submission looked like in his eyes, last night at dinner.he didnt want to answer, because he wanted us to have a good night. 

I still want to know....

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Listening

Yesterdays dare was seeking first to understand.   Craig and I really do communicate backwards.  I asked him what time he would be home on Wednesday.  He told me that the class was 2 hours long, but, chad from work called him and.......    went into a story about how nurses receive. .incident, bit that wasnt the word..... ....and what they wanted him to do.  I was able to say.... so what I am hearing is.... and kind of repeated him...  so youll be home around......   

He is so well respected at work... I wonder if he feels inrespect him.  I wonder if he feels I even care....

Submission

Am I submissive?

I think so.  Craig does not.  I am independent and assertive.  In reading "Have a new.husband by Friday", Dr. LEHMAN said that you should tell your husband what you need and when you need it by.  Let him respond.  Dont nag.  If he doesnt do it, cheerfully get it done. (Do it yourself or hire it out)    so, does being submissive mean I should have waited for the kitchen to be remodeled?  We both knew it needed to be done. Wed even bought a lot of the stuff together.  Ive been waiting 2 years.  Even he likes it.....  but he is upset with me.    Is he upset because I did it?  He did say more than once that he would like me to wait.   But for how long? 

2.  I don't know if I trust craig to do what he says hell do.  He doesnt have follow through in so many areas.  it isnt that I dont trust him to do a good job, because he does a.fantastic job when he does something.  But, like the kitchen, if I waited for him, it would never be remodeled.   He rarely cleans or cooks and I think the ickiness of what it looked like is part of it.   He also has so many projects at once that he doesnt get to everything.  I dont think not getting to things that are important to me is done in spite, I truly believe its the ADD.

There are a lot if worst case scenarios. 

I think that I need to show respect and submission by the way I speak to and about my husband.   So no gloating about the kitchen.   No making fun of him.  I need to tell him my needs and then let them go or take care of them myself.  Woman in the bible did.  Nables wife...queen esther.sarah rebecca.... they all influenced their husband and took care of business when needed. 

Lord jesus I know that this is where I struggle.  I do desire to be a good wife.  I am not sure I am capable of being a good wife though. Please speak to me and show me where I can give the reins to Craig.    Fixing the kitchen is not something his mom would have done.  Helo him understand and helo me also Lord. 

Lord, I desire to trust craig to lead me.  Where shall I even begin?

Monday, April 14, 2014

Longing

Matthew 14:22-23 NIV

Immediately Jesus made the disciples get into the boat and go on ahead of him to the other side, while he dismissed the crowd. After he had dismissed them, he went up on a mountainside by himself to pray. Later that night, he was there alone,

I enjoy my quiet time with jesus.  Thank you Lord for putting that desire on my heart so many years ago. 

Todays dare is to simply long for Jesus.  To invite him in to call my spirit. 

Lord today I will admit that you are so faithful! You always place sparks of hope in you, into my heart.  father I have never experienced the gift of tongues and ask that you allow me to experience that... I know it is for me and not for you.  I dont want to be like the disciples , always doubting and wanting more.  

I also lift up my husband.  I still dont understand why we dont communicate.  I dont understand why he wouldnt tell ME that he is not going to persue Petaluma, but I thank you for changing his heart.  Lord, please change mine for him.  I desire to live him as no other.  I dont feel loved by him. But I also know YOU will never abandon me.  Show me ways to bless him regatdless of how I feel about him.